Give it if you want it!

Whenever you look around,you seem to be confronted with the need for people to want more satisfaction between the sheets.The internet churns out steady information on how you can do this and how you can do that,you find advice on how to make her /him scream for more.I was (to be honest,am still one) a disciple of such deluge of info because I could be termed as a ‘sex stylist’ ,borrowing the words of Tom Hanks in his movie ‘Punch line’. From a young age, I have always been fascinated by the concept of erotica,sex or lovemaking and it might be due to this that I came to two (2) important conclusions,First every human is unique,therefore never expect the same sexual pleasure or response from two different people.Secondly,to derive maximum sexual pleasure you must be willing to give the same.

It would be a thankless task if I choose to dwell on our different nature as individuals but this fact needs to be explored  when it comes to sex because the sexual instinct in man is something primal.In a real sense,erotic pleasure can never be measured so never attempt to create a strict code for giving your partner pleasure.I have heard numerous stories where ‘killer move A didn’t work on C while it worked on B and D’ and have had some experiences where my sleek moves could get some ladies throwing their legs in the air and leaving others stone-faced. After such scenarios,I altered my game and I developed a concept and oh,its not rocket science or an original concept but I can share with you guys.When I get lucky and a lady is willing for me to explore her velvety groove,I tend to ‘Explore and Observe’, I take my time to go all over her body,starting from the head then go south or start at the feet and move north.This way,one gets to know what really gets her pulse running  or what makes her yearn for a newspaper.The key here is your focus and speed.At this point,you should know that the partner is all yours so your focus should be how to enjoy the pleasure of giving him/her pleasure but your speed should be in line with your observational skill.In other words,if you move too fast,there is no way you would observe yourself let alone your partner.So,just explore,take it slow and when you hit the would be sure to X-mark the spot.

This next factor for attaining that mind-blowing pleasure is often overlooked.Most people, especially the menfolk, tend to be more concerned about satisfying a urge rather than seeing sex as something that can be more enjoyable if your partner’s satisfaction is put into the equation.The bible,society,and almost all religions and ideologies place emphasis on the principle that you must give to receive,as the Latin phrase says ‘Quid pro quo’-something in return for something.It is hilarious when I hear a guy complaining that his girl doesn’t like giving him head,then I ask my usual question  ‘Do you give her head?’ and he goes ballistic saying how can he put his lips to THAT? (THAT being her vagina).I am an African and a Nigerian by birth but when it comes to sex,this part of the world seems to throw up some abnormalities.You want head yet you don’t want to return the favour? Get real guys! Nothing blows a person’s mind as the fact that you have a real interest in him/her and yes it is true we can not always have real interest in all our sex-mates but take the time and effort to show some interest in the other person.It has a multiplier effect for the following reasons. Such an interest in the person makes your partner more relaxed and receptive to your touches,bringing out those moans and groans which in turn gets your blood pumping.Also,it allows room for experimentation even if what you suggest hasn’t been tried by you guys before.For instance,I love going south on my partners and they all love it so I don’t ever really need to ask any lady to play my flute because she is just returning the favour or she knows same is in store for her.And lastly,especially in the case of ladies,such attention to her needs and pleasures allows her feelings for you to blossom.

So when next you have time for a roll in the hay, remember the words of J.F.Kennedy which I shall rephrase to read ”Don’t think what your partner can do for you..think what you can do for your partner..”



Where’s the restroom?

As we drove into the PTI conference centre,Effurun-Warri,the sound of the music blaring from loud speakers filtered into the car through the rolled up panes,my eyes roved ,looking for where to park ,pausing to steal a look at the lady sitting beside me in the car.My eyes look at her well sculptured face,highlighted by those sexy eyes,soften by her pout lips, her slim neck down to her full cleavage accentuated by a body fitting silk evening gown which rode up her hips to reveal soft creamy thighs that ended with perfectly shaped legs.I smiled to myself,she was what Tu baba would called an African queen,a Nubian princess.
I managed to find a spot to slot my car in, we got down and walked towards the direction of the music,the party seem to be in full swing now,a friend of mine was celebrating his birthday and extended an invite to me which I gladly honoured coupled with the fact that I had her as company, watching her walk alone,filled me with pride because few ladies at the party could match her beauty and poise.We were ushered to seats and refreshments came at a fast rate.Drinks and barbecued fish and meat were placed in front of us as if it was the Last supper and we weren’t going to get any more food in this life.
The party continued at this rate till the DJ played Davido’s hit track ‘Skelewu’,and boy oh boy,the groove climbed another notch.Everyone jumped out of their seats,shouting and gyrating to the beat.My companion looked at me,smiled and asked if I brought my dancing shoes, I needed no second invitation.We left our seats and we began to move in tune with the song,showing each other our dance moves, soon we were feeling each other up,enjoying the feel of each other’s body.
The DJ must be clairvoyant because he suddenly switched to a slow jam,affording us the opportunity to get more closer .We were more interested in each other than the party,maybe the liquor was settling in.She suddenly looked at me and said ‘I want you’, I replied that I want her more but when we get home.She shook her head and said now..she reached lower and felt my shaft..I looked around and took her by the hand and lead her away from the crowd,scanning for somewhere secluded.My mind thought of going to the car but it was parked far that instance,my eye caught the restroom,it seemed scanty and I pulled her in that direction.As we moved towards the restroom,my mind tried to remember the conditions of the restrooms and I breathed a sigh of relief as the image of the constant neatness came to my mind.By now.we were walking in and after a quick glance around,we went into one of the men’s restroom and locked the door and turned on a tap to mask the sounds I know we will make.
Without wasting more time,we locked our lips,kissing passionately,tasting each others lips while our hands grope all over each other.My fingers reached down to run along her thighs,feeling its softness,as I work my way back up ,pulling her dress up to reveal her sexy thighs which spread out to form a pair of glorious hips,scantily wrapped in G-strings.My other hand fondled her breasts as she moaned and unbuckled my belt,reaching down to fish out my already hard dick which she started to stroke with passion causing my blood to rush more faster.Knowing that we didn’t have all the time in the world,my fingers slid in between her legs to feel her honey-spot and were soaked and moisten with her juices as I ran them along the lips of her pussy,pausing to squeeze on her clit.sexywoman
I turned her around,placing her hands on the wash basin,leaning her forward slightly as I dropped my trousers and boxers ,pulling her undies to one side,I slid in,enjoying the moist sweetness,oblivious to the sounds and murmuring outside.I start to thrust,moving my waist from side to side,my hands on her hips as she gyrated her waist to welcome every thrust,turning her head to look at me.As I slammed my dick into her,she leaned forward more,pushing her ass into me,bouncing and enjoying herself,soon I was going in faster and faster,my entry getting more slick as her juices flowed and soaked my this point she bent down to hold her feet to give me more access and the mere sight of her soft and large ass suspended in the air was enough motivation for me to deepen my thrusts,tighten my grip on her waist as we moved together,moaning and groaning ,her juices flowing more till I felt my cum rising and then I went stiff as I pumped my cum into her ,enjoying every final thrust as we climaxed together,our moans covered only by the running water.
After we cleaned ourselves and dressed up,I looked across at my wife and asked ‘Shall we?’ and she replied,’After you’ as we walked out to meet questioning gazes around us,which we simply ignored as we strolled back to our table.

Lets talk about ‘Sex’

The Aimagesmerican hip hop trio of the 90’s called Salt n Pepper released a track called ‘let’s talk about sex’ which sold a lot,the opening lines of the chorus gives a pointer to where this article is heading.For those who remember..’lets talk about sex baby,lets talk about you and me..lets talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be..lets talk about sex!!!’

I was chatting with a friend some days back and I referred her to my blog ,which she visited and when I ask for her views on it,she replied that she didn’t care for its content,I was forced to ask her why and she said it didn’t seem right for one to be discussing or writing about sex,that such a person may be regarded as a pervert.I duly explained to her my views on talking about sex and made her understand that nothing offensive or inhuman will be found on my blog. Such view prompted me to express myself the only way I can (through written words).

We live in a world where sex is used to sell everything from toothpicks to cars. Yet fear and silence around sex and sexuality also permeate our culture to the extent that we can’t even express normal sexual feelings. Its a shame that teens and youths are paying a high cost for this silence in unintended pregnancy, STDs, and even HIV. And globally, taxpayers are paying billions to treat these entirely preventable problems.

Sexuality is seen everywhere we turn.Infact,the word which has the fastest attention grabbing rate is undoubtedly SEX so why the silence when we should be free to talk about it in a healthy way.In humans ,the three most innate instincts remain survival,feeding and sex yet the human race due to a notion of propriety and morals have shielded its teens and the society at large from discussing what should be discussed more, for better understanding and the removal of the mystique surrounding the topic.

Parents the world over, hardly talk about sex to their children,and even if they do,its like instilling a vow of abstinence on the kids.The rate at which society progresses technologically has made some methods that used to work become obsolete.The internet has ushered in new ways and the best way to keep our children safe and responsible is by educating them whenever the opportunity arises.The power of peer pressure should never be underestimated.A child is most likely to discuss sex and sexuality with his/her peers if it seems that such an audience will be not be given at home or regarded as a taboo but such a situation will be like the case of a blind man leading another which we all know won’t end well.

For adults who truly don’t know  that they should be talking openly and factually with young people about sex and sexuality or don’t know how important that is,now is the time to have a new mindset and approach.I know,I know,its not going to be easy to just walk up to someone and start such discussions but we all know that topics tend to delve  into such areas,so with a bit of decorum,sex related matters can be brought up.Ironically,even adults find it difficult to hold conversation once the issue sex is brought up which is not surprising because most of us have been brainwashed from infancy that sex or even the discussion about is a taboo.This lack of expression has lead to failed marriages because we have couples who tend to drift apart due to inactivity in their sex life and the inability to discuss the subject freely with their spouse leads to a loss of that important emotionally connection.In Africa,we have scenarios where a lady is perceived as loose because she isn’t shy to talk about sex or her sexuality,which is wrong.Yes,that was the norm in the years past but right now,each and everyone should be free to express his/her sexuality via words at least,as long as it doesn’t affect the morals of others or view as offensive for the African adage says ‘what someone knows doesn’t kill him’


This issue is one that will always be debated and discussed but I must point out at least that sex/sexual topics  isn’t going anywhere so its best we equip ourselves with as much knowledge possible to deal with the new sex vogue,after all,it is said one shouldn’t go to war with a leaking ship.

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