Give it if you want it!

Whenever you look around,you seem to be confronted with the need for people to want more satisfaction between the sheets.The internet churns out steady information on how you can do this and how you can do that,you find advice on how to make her /him scream for more.I was (to be honest,am still one) a disciple of such deluge of info because I could be termed as a ‘sex stylist’ ,borrowing the words of Tom Hanks in his movie ‘Punch line’. From a young age, I have always been fascinated by the concept of erotica,sex or lovemaking and it might be due to this that I came to two (2) important conclusions,First every human is unique,therefore never expect the same sexual pleasure or response from two different people.Secondly,to derive maximum sexual pleasure you must be willing to give the same.

It would be a thankless task if I choose to dwell on our different nature as individuals but this fact needs to be explored  when it comes to sex because the sexual instinct in man is something primal.In a real sense,erotic pleasure can never be measured so never attempt to create a strict code for giving your partner pleasure.I have heard numerous stories where ‘killer move A didn’t work on C while it worked on B and D’ and have had some experiences where my sleek moves could get some ladies throwing their legs in the air and leaving others stone-faced. After such scenarios,I altered my game and I developed a concept and oh,its not rocket science or an original concept but I can share with you guys.When I get lucky and a lady is willing for me to explore her velvety groove,I tend to ‘Explore and Observe’, I take my time to go all over her body,starting from the head then go south or start at the feet and move north.This way,one gets to know what really gets her pulse running  or what makes her yearn for a newspaper.The key here is your focus and speed.At this point,you should know that the partner is all yours so your focus should be how to enjoy the pleasure of giving him/her pleasure but your speed should be in line with your observational skill.In other words,if you move too fast,there is no way you would observe yourself let alone your partner.So,just explore,take it slow and when you hit the would be sure to X-mark the spot.

This next factor for attaining that mind-blowing pleasure is often overlooked.Most people, especially the menfolk, tend to be more concerned about satisfying a urge rather than seeing sex as something that can be more enjoyable if your partner’s satisfaction is put into the equation.The bible,society,and almost all religions and ideologies place emphasis on the principle that you must give to receive,as the Latin phrase says ‘Quid pro quo’-something in return for something.It is hilarious when I hear a guy complaining that his girl doesn’t like giving him head,then I ask my usual question  ‘Do you give her head?’ and he goes ballistic saying how can he put his lips to THAT? (THAT being her vagina).I am an African and a Nigerian by birth but when it comes to sex,this part of the world seems to throw up some abnormalities.You want head yet you don’t want to return the favour? Get real guys! Nothing blows a person’s mind as the fact that you have a real interest in him/her and yes it is true we can not always have real interest in all our sex-mates but take the time and effort to show some interest in the other person.It has a multiplier effect for the following reasons. Such an interest in the person makes your partner more relaxed and receptive to your touches,bringing out those moans and groans which in turn gets your blood pumping.Also,it allows room for experimentation even if what you suggest hasn’t been tried by you guys before.For instance,I love going south on my partners and they all love it so I don’t ever really need to ask any lady to play my flute because she is just returning the favour or she knows same is in store for her.And lastly,especially in the case of ladies,such attention to her needs and pleasures allows her feelings for you to blossom.

So when next you have time for a roll in the hay, remember the words of J.F.Kennedy which I shall rephrase to read ”Don’t think what your partner can do for you..think what you can do for your partner..”



Where’s the restroom?

As we drove into the PTI conference centre,Effurun-Warri,the sound of the music blaring from loud speakers filtered into the car through the rolled up panes,my eyes roved ,looking for where to park ,pausing to steal a look at the lady sitting beside me in the car.My eyes look at her well sculptured face,highlighted by those sexy eyes,soften by her pout lips, her slim neck down to her full cleavage accentuated by a body fitting silk evening gown which rode up her hips to reveal soft creamy thighs that ended with perfectly shaped legs.I smiled to myself,she was what Tu baba would called an African queen,a Nubian princess.
I managed to find a spot to slot my car in, we got down and walked towards the direction of the music,the party seem to be in full swing now,a friend of mine was celebrating his birthday and extended an invite to me which I gladly honoured coupled with the fact that I had her as company, watching her walk alone,filled me with pride because few ladies at the party could match her beauty and poise.We were ushered to seats and refreshments came at a fast rate.Drinks and barbecued fish and meat were placed in front of us as if it was the Last supper and we weren’t going to get any more food in this life.
The party continued at this rate till the DJ played Davido’s hit track ‘Skelewu’,and boy oh boy,the groove climbed another notch.Everyone jumped out of their seats,shouting and gyrating to the beat.My companion looked at me,smiled and asked if I brought my dancing shoes, I needed no second invitation.We left our seats and we began to move in tune with the song,showing each other our dance moves, soon we were feeling each other up,enjoying the feel of each other’s body.
The DJ must be clairvoyant because he suddenly switched to a slow jam,affording us the opportunity to get more closer .We were more interested in each other than the party,maybe the liquor was settling in.She suddenly looked at me and said ‘I want you’, I replied that I want her more but when we get home.She shook her head and said now..she reached lower and felt my shaft..I looked around and took her by the hand and lead her away from the crowd,scanning for somewhere secluded.My mind thought of going to the car but it was parked far that instance,my eye caught the restroom,it seemed scanty and I pulled her in that direction.As we moved towards the restroom,my mind tried to remember the conditions of the restrooms and I breathed a sigh of relief as the image of the constant neatness came to my mind.By now.we were walking in and after a quick glance around,we went into one of the men’s restroom and locked the door and turned on a tap to mask the sounds I know we will make.
Without wasting more time,we locked our lips,kissing passionately,tasting each others lips while our hands grope all over each other.My fingers reached down to run along her thighs,feeling its softness,as I work my way back up ,pulling her dress up to reveal her sexy thighs which spread out to form a pair of glorious hips,scantily wrapped in G-strings.My other hand fondled her breasts as she moaned and unbuckled my belt,reaching down to fish out my already hard dick which she started to stroke with passion causing my blood to rush more faster.Knowing that we didn’t have all the time in the world,my fingers slid in between her legs to feel her honey-spot and were soaked and moisten with her juices as I ran them along the lips of her pussy,pausing to squeeze on her clit.sexywoman
I turned her around,placing her hands on the wash basin,leaning her forward slightly as I dropped my trousers and boxers ,pulling her undies to one side,I slid in,enjoying the moist sweetness,oblivious to the sounds and murmuring outside.I start to thrust,moving my waist from side to side,my hands on her hips as she gyrated her waist to welcome every thrust,turning her head to look at me.As I slammed my dick into her,she leaned forward more,pushing her ass into me,bouncing and enjoying herself,soon I was going in faster and faster,my entry getting more slick as her juices flowed and soaked my this point she bent down to hold her feet to give me more access and the mere sight of her soft and large ass suspended in the air was enough motivation for me to deepen my thrusts,tighten my grip on her waist as we moved together,moaning and groaning ,her juices flowing more till I felt my cum rising and then I went stiff as I pumped my cum into her ,enjoying every final thrust as we climaxed together,our moans covered only by the running water.
After we cleaned ourselves and dressed up,I looked across at my wife and asked ‘Shall we?’ and she replied,’After you’ as we walked out to meet questioning gazes around us,which we simply ignored as we strolled back to our table.

Blame Nature..not me

I have been asked countless times why I decided to write about sex among the various topics that has been contemplated by the human brain and I say,’why not?’…after much thought,I keep reaching the conclusion that sex remains one of the most important topics to be discussed and I feel that it is not even talked about as much as it should ,rather humans prefer to perform the action yet shy away from even uttering a single word about it,no wonder the word ‘sex’ has more slang or code names for it than most words in the English vocabulary.
In this part of the world where I was born,the mere mention of sex or any of the genitals might earn you a thunderous slap from an elderly one if you are not lucky or if you are with your peers,then you are instantly branded as loose and promiscuous. Ironically,this has not always been the case in Africa, looking back into the history of various tribes,we hear of initiation rites into manhood,which is done at puberty,after which the initiates are considered men and told all a man needs to know and function properly as a man and a member of the society.we are told how our forefathers took many wives and bore many children.Such a society wouldn’t  frown on the discussion of sex or the art of procreation,so why the present taboo on the notorious three letter word.
Religion has painted sex in the darkest of light and one might be tempted to think the sex or procreation wasn’t part of God’s plan for humans but we can read part of that plan at Gen 1,verse 28 (KJV); where we were given the divine command to multiply and be fruitful and fill the earth.Yet,most religions have made sure that sex is tagged as dirty but we are told to save it for marriage,in other words,for that one person whom we truly love.Yea,I  get confused myself.In fact, the words of Butch Hancock exemplifies my thoughts further when he said,  ”…Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you’re going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love.”
This piece is not meant to bash at religion but merely to emphasize the need for our society to be be more enlightened sexually,for sexual issues to be discussed freely among parents,guardians and the youths or children because the older ones are in a better position to offer advice on sex and its pleasure but how can this be possible if the grown ups don’t  even have an idea what sex is all about or don’t feel free to discuss it as if it would bring down the wrath of God.I am of the opinion that sex education should be taught as a separate  subject in our schools.Slow down,before I am taken to the stake to be burned,it should be noted that morals are getting lower by the day,teenage pregnancies are on the rise and STDs abound yet sex is still mentioned in hush tones.Is it not possible that this is the case as a result of ignorance?that the youths are left to a situation where it becomes more of an experiment to see what all the fuss and secrecy is all about?

Besides, Beverly Mickins ,talking about the American education system couldn’t have put it more aptly when she said ” Conservatives say teaching sex education in the public schools will promote promiscuity. With our education system? If we promote promiscuity the same way we promote math or science, they’ve got nothing to worry about.”
I could go on and on to espouse why sex should be discussed more and freely but I might run out of steam so I want to part with the words of Don Schrader ”To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, ..but the devil slapped on the genitals. ” As for me,call it a personal crusade but I will continue to do my bit in educating anyone who wishes to listen that sex is pleasurable and meant to be enjoyed by two consenting adults who have a good knowledge of erotica.On the issue of sex, You will never be ashamed to pen my thoughts,in fact, I would be in the exalted company of a great Italian writer ,Pietro Aretino who once said ”Why should I be ashamed to describe what nature was not ashamed to create…?”

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