Whenever you look around,you seem to be confronted with the need for people to want more satisfaction between the sheets.The internet churns out steady information on how you can do this and how you can do that,you find advice on how to make her /him scream for more.I was (to be honest,am still one) a disciple of such deluge of info because I could be termed as a ‘sex stylist’ ,borrowing the words of Tom Hanks in his movie ‘Punch line’. From a young age, I have always been fascinated by the concept of erotica,sex or lovemaking and it might be due to this that I came to two (2) important conclusions,First every human is unique,therefore never expect the same sexual pleasure or response from two different people.Secondly,to derive maximum sexual pleasure you must be willing to give the same.
It would be a thankless task if I choose to dwell on our different nature as individuals but this fact needs to be explored when it comes to sex because the sexual instinct in man is something primal.In a real sense,erotic pleasure can never be measured so never attempt to create a strict code for giving your partner pleasure.I have heard numerous stories where ‘killer move A didn’t work on C while it worked on B and D’ and have had some experiences where my sleek moves could get some ladies throwing their legs in the air and leaving others stone-faced. After such scenarios,I altered my game and I developed a concept and oh,its not rocket science or an original concept but I can share with you guys.When I get lucky and a lady is willing for me to explore her velvety groove,I tend to ‘Explore and Observe’, I take my time to go all over her body,starting from the head then go south or start at the feet and move north.This way,one gets to know what really gets her pulse running or what makes her yearn for a newspaper.The key here is your focus and speed.At this point,you should know that the partner is all yours so your focus should be how to enjoy the pleasure of giving him/her pleasure but your speed should be in line with your observational skill.In other words,if you move too fast,there is no way you would observe yourself let alone your partner.So,just explore,take it slow and when you hit the goldmine..you would be sure to X-mark the spot.
This next factor for attaining that mind-blowing pleasure is often overlooked.Most people, especially the menfolk, tend to be more concerned about satisfying a urge rather than seeing sex as something that can be more enjoyable if your partner’s satisfaction is put into the equation.The bible,society,and almost all religions and ideologies place emphasis on the principle that you must give to receive,as the Latin phrase says ‘Quid pro quo’-something in return for something.It is hilarious when I hear a guy complaining that his girl doesn’t like giving him head,then I ask my usual question ‘Do you give her head?’ and he goes ballistic saying how can he put his lips to THAT? (THAT being her vagina).I am an African and a Nigerian by birth but when it comes to sex,this part of the world seems to throw up some abnormalities.You want head yet you don’t want to return the favour? Get real guys! Nothing blows a person’s mind as the fact that you have a real interest in him/her and yes it is true we can not always have real interest in all our sex-mates but take the time and effort to show some interest in the other person.It has a multiplier effect for the following reasons. Such an interest in the person makes your partner more relaxed and receptive to your touches,bringing out those moans and groans which in turn gets your blood pumping.Also,it allows room for experimentation even if what you suggest hasn’t been tried by you guys before.For instance,I love going south on my partners and they all love it so I don’t ever really need to ask any lady to play my flute because she is just returning the favour or she knows same is in store for her.And lastly,especially in the case of ladies,such attention to her needs and pleasures allows her feelings for you to blossom.
So when next you have time for a roll in the hay, remember the words of J.F.Kennedy which I shall rephrase to read ”Don’t think what your partner can do for you..think what you can do for your partner..”