I have been asked countless times why I decided to write about sex among the various topics that has been contemplated by the human brain and I say,’why not?’…after much thought,I keep reaching the conclusion that sex remains one of the most important topics to be discussed and I feel that it is not even talked about as much as it should ,rather humans prefer to perform the action yet shy away from even uttering a single word about it,no wonder the word ‘sex’ has more slang or code names for it than most words in the English vocabulary.
In this part of the world where I was born,the mere mention of sex or any of the genitals might earn you a thunderous slap from an elderly one if you are not lucky or if you are with your peers,then you are instantly branded as loose and promiscuous. Ironically,this has not always been the case in Africa, looking back into the history of various tribes,we hear of initiation rites into manhood,which is done at puberty,after which the initiates are considered men and told all a man needs to know and function properly as a man and a member of the society.we are told how our forefathers took many wives and bore many children.Such a society wouldn’t frown on the discussion of sex or the art of procreation,so why the present taboo on the notorious three letter word.
Religion has painted sex in the darkest of light and one might be tempted to think the sex or procreation wasn’t part of God’s plan for humans but we can read part of that plan at Gen 1,verse 28 (KJV); where we were given the divine command to multiply and be fruitful and fill the earth.Yet,most religions have made sure that sex is tagged as dirty but we are told to save it for marriage,in other words,for that one person whom we truly love.Yea,I get confused myself.In fact, the words of Butch Hancock exemplifies my thoughts further when he said, ”…Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you’re going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love.”
This piece is not meant to bash at religion but merely to emphasize the need for our society to be be more enlightened sexually,for sexual issues to be discussed freely among parents,guardians and the youths or children because the older ones are in a better position to offer advice on sex and its pleasure but how can this be possible if the grown ups don’t even have an idea what sex is all about or don’t feel free to discuss it as if it would bring down the wrath of God.I am of the opinion that sex education should be taught as a separate subject in our schools.Slow down,before I am taken to the stake to be burned,it should be noted that morals are getting lower by the day,teenage pregnancies are on the rise and STDs abound yet sex is still mentioned in hush tones.Is it not possible that this is the case as a result of ignorance?that the youths are left to a situation where it becomes more of an experiment to see what all the fuss and secrecy is all about?
Besides, Beverly Mickins ,talking about the American education system couldn’t have put it more aptly when she said ” Conservatives say teaching sex education in the public schools will promote promiscuity. With our education system? If we promote promiscuity the same way we promote math or science, they’ve got nothing to worry about.”
I could go on and on to espouse why sex should be discussed more and freely but I might run out of steam so I want to part with the words of Don Schrader ”To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, ..but the devil slapped on the genitals. ” As for me,call it a personal crusade but I will continue to do my bit in educating anyone who wishes to listen that sex is pleasurable and meant to be enjoyed by two consenting adults who have a good knowledge of erotica.On the issue of sex, You will never be ashamed to pen my thoughts,in fact, I would be in the exalted company of a great Italian writer ,Pietro Aretino who once said ”Why should I be ashamed to describe what nature was not ashamed to create…?”
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