The American hip hop trio of the 90’s called Salt n Pepper released a track called ‘let’s talk about sex’ which sold a lot,the opening lines of the chorus gives a pointer to where this article is heading.For those who remember..’lets talk about sex baby,lets talk about you and me..lets talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be..lets talk about sex!!!’
I was chatting with a friend some days back and I referred her to my blog ,which she visited and when I ask for her views on it,she replied that she didn’t care for its content,I was forced to ask her why and she said it didn’t seem right for one to be discussing or writing about sex,that such a person may be regarded as a pervert.I duly explained to her my views on talking about sex and made her understand that nothing offensive or inhuman will be found on my blog. Such view prompted me to express myself the only way I can (through written words).
We live in a world where sex is used to sell everything from toothpicks to cars. Yet fear and silence around sex and sexuality also permeate our culture to the extent that we can’t even express normal sexual feelings. Its a shame that teens and youths are paying a high cost for this silence in unintended pregnancy, STDs, and even HIV. And globally, taxpayers are paying billions to treat these entirely preventable problems.
Sexuality is seen everywhere we turn.Infact,the word which has the fastest attention grabbing rate is undoubtedly SEX so why the silence when we should be free to talk about it in a healthy way.In humans ,the three most innate instincts remain survival,feeding and sex yet the human race due to a notion of propriety and morals have shielded its teens and the society at large from discussing what should be discussed more, for better understanding and the removal of the mystique surrounding the topic.
Parents the world over, hardly talk about sex to their children,and even if they do,its like instilling a vow of abstinence on the kids.The rate at which society progresses technologically has made some methods that used to work become obsolete.The internet has ushered in new ways and the best way to keep our children safe and responsible is by educating them whenever the opportunity arises.The power of peer pressure should never be underestimated.A child is most likely to discuss sex and sexuality with his/her peers if it seems that such an audience will be not be given at home or regarded as a taboo but such a situation will be like the case of a blind man leading another which we all know won’t end well.
For adults who truly don’t know that they should be talking openly and factually with young people about sex and sexuality or don’t know how important that is,now is the time to have a new mindset and approach.I know,I know,its not going to be easy to just walk up to someone and start such discussions but we all know that topics tend to delve into such areas,so with a bit of decorum,sex related matters can be brought up.Ironically,even adults find it difficult to hold conversation once the issue sex is brought up which is not surprising because most of us have been brainwashed from infancy that sex or even the discussion about is a taboo.This lack of expression has lead to failed marriages because we have couples who tend to drift apart due to inactivity in their sex life and the inability to discuss the subject freely with their spouse leads to a loss of that important emotionally connection.In Africa,we have scenarios where a lady is perceived as loose because she isn’t shy to talk about sex or her sexuality,which is wrong.Yes,that was the norm in the years past but right now,each and everyone should be free to express his/her sexuality via words at least,as long as it doesn’t affect the morals of others or view as offensive for the African adage says ‘what someone knows doesn’t kill him’
This issue is one that will always be debated and discussed but I must point out at least that sex/sexual topics isn’t going anywhere so its best we equip ourselves with as much knowledge possible to deal with the new sex vogue,after all,it is said one shouldn’t go to war with a leaking ship.
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